Childhood is designed to be fun and adventurous. The playful vibe of a child’s soul is what drives curiosity, learning and experience. Whether you look forward to it or not, growing up is compulsory. In some cases, you might be presented with a situation that forces quick growth; for example, having to take care of an elderly family member, having a child early or navigating independence from an early age and so on.
As the popular quote goes “maturity is not measured by age, but defined by experience.”
Adulting is a journey that has no manual, it is basically forced on you. The older you get, life becomes more demanding and there’s no better strategy than to adapt to all of its challenges in each phase. I like to think of the early twenties as a “pilot” phase of adulting. This is where self-awareness is heightened, the wit of playfulness is more reserved or even loses its appeal entirely; and decisions are made with what feels like a forced awareness, in other words, experience.
You also naturally start to seek emotional, mental, physical and financial fulfilment, sometimes also spiritual fulfilment. You find that each of your thoughts is propelled towards achieving your goals. If you want to come back home to an appealing bed, the expected thing is to wake up early enough to have time to smooth your sheets out. You have a fitness goal? Find a comfortable workout that fits into your routine. Or that is what is expected anyway, right?
The maturity report card basically determines whether you fit in or not.
It can be expected that maturity and adulting to go hand in hand but in most cases, it doesn’t. Maturity almost seems like society’s report card for adulting. The scores put you in a position that defines or questions your morals and principles. So it can be distasteful when morally-challenging situations are navigated with a playful or unserious wit. Society takes maturity so personal that it determines status and standards across the globe. The maturity report card basically determines whether you fit in or not.
It is always said to keep our inner child alive, for hearts open to life-changing experiences and opportunities
But does it really determine if you live a fulfilled life? Don’t get me wrong, feeling out of place can be tough to navigate and it can put you in a defining position to find efforts that fit better into society’s mould. However, the standards of society’s mould do not particularly appeal to everyone. While I believe that no one on earth is out of place, they are not just around their type of people (Read Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe); and of course, there is a minimum level of maturity that is naturally expected from a certain age from an average individual.
As the popular quote goes “maturity is not measured by age, but defined by experience”. The reality is, you cannot control life’s experiences, it has to happen naturally, we live and we learn.
So, at the core of this, is maturity so crucial to adulthood that it determines whether an individual lives a fulfilled life or not? Or is a relaxed approach to morals and principles really the bane of a solid society, especially in a digital age where virtual sensitivity is intense?
A playful soul has its charm. It is always said to keep our inner child alive, for our hearts open to life-changing experiences and opportunities. But how important exactly is maturity?