I don’t know if you’ve heard the phrase “your vibe attracts your tribe”. By tribe, you probably think I mean like “Hausa”, “Yoruba”, “Igbo” or one of the hundreds of other tribes we have in Nigeria, but unfortunately that’s not it. Let’s be a little bit more woke here, I actually mean your soul tribe.
Your family could be your tribe, your clique of friends could be your tribe or even your church members. Basically, the people that you are unapologetically yourself around, support one another, you all love and gravitate towards the same things, probably think alike and have similar values with, they’re your tribe. Your people.
I grew up as the only girl with two brothers. My childhood with my brothers was really fun. Boys are a lot more playful so I got to play with them a lot, in every way- both the rough and the gentle. My brothers always saw me as one of them. I even had a tomboy phase lol.
However as I grew older and started to know myself a lot better; I started immersing myself into the things I enjoy as an individual and as a lady. I have grown into someone that heavily prioritises “me-time” as I find it very important for growth and self discovery. You can call me a loner actually.
We grow, we change, everyone chooses their path. It’s all part of life.
Don’t get me wrong, I party quite a bit. I love to go out, hangout with my friends, socialise, meet new people. As much as I love all of these things, going back home makes me happy (probably too happy) because I get an uninterrupted stretch of time to myself, and all my oddness.
It’s not everyone I meet that I want to stay in touch with. I’m sure anyone with a social side can relate to this- being picky about who you allow into your social circle. However I am getting to the point where I feel like I am not putting myself out there enough and it is stunting my career and personal growth. I’ll explain why.
What you are is what you attract; and to attract what you truly are, you have to completely be yourself.
We all have times when we need a little bit of a “pick-me-up”, no man is an island. But in an attempt to not alienate yourself, it’s very great to surround yourself with people that your soul speaks the same language with. As much as I love my friends and family, I feel myself needing more support to keep me going.
My family has an independent dynamic but I have been lucky to make some close friends, some that I can call sisters actually but everyone has their lives to live. So I am left wondering how to step out of my comfort zone and extend myself to places and communities that share similar interests as I do.
But the challenge is that I do not know where to find these people, a community or even what they do. Do I need to be more engaging? or maybe I just need to be more patient. Hmm. Maybe I don’t really know my vibe yet. I guess if I just continue being myself, that would take me somewhere.